You’re good at hiding how you feel
You are hard-working, committed to doing a good job, and you like the company you work for. But there is one thing getting in your way of enjoying the career progression you deserve: your lack of self-belief.
On the outside, you seem like you’ve got it together. You’re capable, competent, and reliable. You rarely say no, so you find yourself taking on more and more work. While you like to be known as someone who gets stuff done, you don’t get much recognition for your efforts.
On the inside, you spend more time than you should wondering about what other people think about you. You re-read emails and text you’ve already sent to check you didn’t say anything that would upset them.
You worry that you worry too much
You wake up in the middle of the night feeling anxious. You recall a conversation and wish it had played out differently. You question what you’ve done or how you did it.
Your self-doubt resurfaces again and again. At best, you override it and carry on. At worst, you get pangs of anxiety or butterflies in your stomach at random moments, especially on a Sunday afternoon.
You tend to discount your achievements
I’ve worked with senior leaders and technical experts whose career spans over twenty years. They are at the top of their game. Yet they haven’t enjoyed their career progression as much as they could have because they lack self-belief, discount their achievements, and are unable to recognise their own expertise in the way others do.
It really frustrates me to see capable and good-hearted people suffer so much, unnecessarily, simply because they lack self-belief. It upsets me when I talk to senior and experienced clients who, despite being great at their job, say they still worry about doing a good job.
You get in your own way
A lot of my clients tell me how they feel nervous before having to speak up in meetings, deliver presentations to the board, or pitch to stakeholders or customers. I really wish this wasn’t the case as it’s relatively easy to overcome, but I see it all the time. The same clients find it hard to raise their profile at work, and it frustrates them to see others getting promoted instead.
It’s easier not to rise the challenge, or step up, or ‘lean in’, so although you know it would benefit you to do that one thing, you get stuck in the procrastination phase. You delay doing the things that stretch you which lead you to feel slightly helpless. It’s really hard to get off this negative cycle.
What works for you?
There are hundreds of self-help books on how to feel happier, to think positively, to fake it until you make it, but no book can help you unless you begin to act in your own best interest.
I’d love to help you…
Time for Change
There’s no such thing a quick-fix, and I know from personal and professional experience that fundamental change takes time.
* Choose from 3,6, or 9 month coaching packages
* One-to-one private and confidential coaching sessions
* Applying evidence-based psychological coaching techniques
* Incorporating Mindful Based Stress Reduction and Self-Compassion techniques
* Goal-setting with a difference
* Follow-up sessions available
My clients are from all over the world, so I ensure that our scheduled sessions can go ahead regardless of being in different time zones.
* Face to face sessions, because non-verbal communication is as important as what we say
* Virtual sessions, so as long as you have internet access it doesn’t matter where you are
* Recordings of every coaching session for you to keep and playback
* Weekly, fortnightly, or monthly sessions
* Schedule calls between 8am-9pm, Saturdays before 1pm
As a registered Chartered Psychologist, I can offer you access to specialist personality profiling tools to help you get to know yourself better.
* Psychological Personality profiling, I’ll recommend the best tool on the market for you
* In-depth analysis and coaching feedback, for a deeper insight into how your personality reveals itself at work, in your personal life and your relationships
* Discover your key motivators, your core values and your signature strengths
* Developing your emotional intelligence to enhance your relationships with others
I woke up this morning with so much more positive focus.
I can’t recommend Jess enough.
I feel like I’ve relocated the tools I need to break down
some of those barriers that seem to build up without our knowledge.Jane
Why work with me?
I’m Jess Baker, a Chartered Psychologist and a Women’s Leadership Coach. In the last ten years I’ve helped clients develop their self-belief and feel more confident.
I run leadership development programmes that enable middle and senior managers to become self-confident, effective, and engaging leaders.
I’ve also dabbled in stand-up comedy and improvised theatre, and, having been a nervous young senior manager with imposter syndrome, I know what it’s like to feel petrified before a meeting or presenting to the board.
I also know what it feels like to learn to value yourself, and understand the positive impact you have on others.
In the past ten years I’ve helped hundreds of women feel more confident in themselves. Not only has this meant that they’ve progressed their career in a way that suits them, it’s also had a positive impact on their personal lives.
I have struggled with my confidence trying to find a permanent role for some time and I needed a change. The most important thing is she made me realise my worth. Jess is a great listener, calm, fun and committed. I have stopped beating my self up about stuff and have a more positive outlook on my future and abilities, thanks to Jess’s guidance. I can’t recommend her enough.Career Coachee
ps. If you’ve read this far, it’s definitely time to take action. Book yourself free 30 minute Discovery Call with me, to talk about what your future could look like.
Working with Jess was equally professional and fun.
Jess clearly knows her stuff and is experienced and confident.
She is also very supportive and extremely professional.Vanessa
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I hold free Discovery Sessions to find out more about you and the challenge you’re facing, and so that you can ask me about how I work.